Will They Ever Understand?

This sums up how I’ve felt since MJ was diagnosed.   I have missed many important functions with family and friends.  I’ve missed weddings, important milestone birthday parties, children’s parties, baby showers, girls night outings, family BBQ’s, family reunions, class reunions, concerts, church functions, and other important events.  I KNOW that we’ve been talked about, judged, and misunderstood by family and friends.  Please know that we have Wanted to attend all of those functions but simply could not.  Many times we have to separate as a family and one of us will go to a function while the other stays home.  MJ is high on the priority list and we have to do what is best for him and our family.  There are only a handful of people that MJ is comfortable with.  There are only a few homes that he is comfortable in, and are conducive to his needs.   We do things to Prevent MJ’s meltdowns. We are very proactive when it comes to that because it takes him a long time to recover.  Few people have actually SEEN his meltdowns.  He gets overwhelmed when there are too many people in an unfamiliar environment.   He needs his quiet place which is, for the most part, his room.   For holidays we know that the best place for us to be is home.  We welcome visits from family and friends.  MJ actually loves getting  visitors.  He says hi and hugs them and then after a few minutes, he goes back to his quiet place…Then he’ll come back around them for a few minutes, then repeat etc.  There’s an upcoming family function and in a way we are being pressured to go.  We have already said that we won’t be going, but still the pressure and “whispers” persist…They still don’t truly understand.   Here’s to hoping that true autism acceptance and understanding will persevere this holiday season and for the future.  

Pic courtesy of @stacyazbill 

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Cutest Thing 

MJ came home from school Friday beaming with joy about what he made in class.  He was so excited to show it to us and immediately asked, “Where are we gonna put it?” It was the cutest art creation I’ve seen him bring home in a long time…I had to share.   😊😊😊


#hewassoproud

#turkey

#cutestthing

It’s Just Not Fair 😳

Firstly, I’d like to say that this post has nothing to do with autism.  It does however discuss how unfair being a mom is at times.  My daughter is now in 4th grade.  This school year she has been challenged in Math.  The subject that was relatively easy for her, has now become stressful! Since about the 3rd week of school she has been really working hard on her math homework.  Every Monday through Thursday we are at the kitchen table for at least 30 min working on math (for the most part). This past week I was busy doing something with MJ so my husband stepped in to help our daughter with her homework.  I was grateful and relieved.   The next morning we awoke to this beautiful letter written to my husband.  My daughter had written him the greatest letter thanking him for helping her with homework! Is she kidding me?! Where the heck is my thank you letter for the 40+ nights I was helping her with homework!  He helps her 1 night and gets a, “Thank you dad…you’re the greatest dad” letter?! It’s just NOT fair.  Husband was all smiles and laughed hysterically when he saw my facial expression.  All he could say was, “Sorry babe. I know how hard you work.” Needless to say I had to listen to calming, soothing music on the way to work to calm myself down…It’s just not fair…Thanks to all for allowing me to vent!



#whereisMYdarnletter

#ihelpyouallofthetime

#really?!

Weekend Happenings

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Friday…After school pick up. 


Another snuggle time moment😍.   


“I don’t wanna do my homework!”


“I really don’t wanna do my homework!😠


Went in the pantry and found this note! He is serious about his Cheetos lol!
Hope y’all had a great weekend 😊